Guard Your Words: Let Them Be Pleasing to the Lord. Everything you say and think should honor the Lord. But how in this sinful world?
Yesterday, I took our daughter, Cora, to an eye appointment. Her glasses broke a couple of weeks ago and she also wanted contacts. After the latest basketball season, she saw the benefit of not wearing glasses on the court.
Especially since that one time when her glasses got knocked off and she was dribbling with one hand and holding her glasses with the other. Didn’t care for that. 😉
You have to understand the relationship we have with the eye doctor. Our oldest son, Ryan, has strabismus. Therefore we have spent hours upon hours, dollars piled on dollars at the eye doctor. Ryan has had eye surgery, patches, bifocals (bifocals on a three year old, yes, it was sad but cute). The every 5-7 week appointments piled up fast.
There is one thing I could say for sure, I know my eye insurance. I know this office and their system and I know what my insurance pays. Been there, done that.
Well, when I took Cora to her appointment, I was told I owed for something I knew I did not owe for. I mean, I really knew I didn’t owe for it because I had her brother’s statement at home saying it was covered by insurance.
A few things happened between myself and the receptionist, but to say the least, she wasn’t buying it and I ended up having to pay over $100. I wasn’t going to argue with her and I certainly wasn’t going to cause a scene.
So I told them what I believed to be true, they didn’t accept it and I paid the fee. When I got home, I went to my computer, looked up our benefits and in less than 5 minutes, I was proven right. The next day I called the insurance company to double check and sure enough, it was official, the eye doctors now owed me money.
You know, I have watched other people get rather irate at receptionists before and I wonder how many of them have testimonies they needed to protect. Being a Christian we need to hold fast and guard our words.
In a nutshell, they were wrong. I was right. I knew I was, I did not want to write a check for something I did not owe for because who knew when I would see my money again.
Guard Your Words
We have testimonies to protect. As Christians, our actions and words are carefully watched by those around us. We represent Christ when we speak. Think on that for a moment. We represent Christ with our words.
Have my words always been pleasing to Him? Of course not!
I have gossiped, lied, criticized, responded in anger, said words I shouldn’t have, talked back, disrespected my parents and later, my husband, snapped at my children… need I go on?
Look, we are going to stumble. We are going to fall. The goal is to constantly do better and strive for better. The actions and words we project reflect on our belief in Christ.
I don’t want to let Him down.
The end of the story? Well, the eye doctor got a call from me and I must say, I have spoken to the billing department many times over the last 14 years. I spoke kindly but with confidence and in the end, I was apologized to and offered a refund.
As my husband likes to say, you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. There was no need to get nasty, I just spoke the truth kindly, had facts to back it up and it went the way it should have.
Let me stress this: there is nothing wrong in standing up for yourself when you have been wronged or you are just plain right. However, there is always a way to go about it. I was frustrated yesterday because they wouldn’t listen to me. I kept my cool and in the end it worked out.
Proverbs 31 Woman Tip
Part of my job as a stay at home mom is to guard my family’s finances. Make sure you are aware of what your insurance plan is and be diligent if something is wrong with a bill. Stay on top of what you are being charged and guard your money (as well as guard your words) well.